Paul Dirmeikis attended Stockhausen’s funeral on December 13, and has a report.
The family is already starting to slowly walk away. Some of us stay around the tomb, scattered between the neighbour tombs. Near the larger alley going down to the chapel, all members of Stockhausen’s family gathered together in a circle, holding their hands. Simon reads something. It’s around 4 pm. That’s it. One of the greatest composers of these last 50 years has just been buried. It’s a freezing afternoon in a distant German village. Fermata.
There is a wonderful tribute and overview of Stockhausen on BBC 3: http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio/aod/radio3_aod.shtml?radio3/musicmatters
which includes some very telling comments from Boulez and his son Markus. This link is only active until 12/22.